Getting Over a Love Addiction - Continued

When you love someone with every fibre offor you through thick and thin. Love is dedication,
your being, every breath that you take, andrespect and mutual compassion. Love is what I
every beat of your heart, it is impossible tohave with my husband.
believe that you are wrong. When losing theWhen we are heartbroken, we think that the
person feels like losing the air that you breathe, itsevere pain is evidence proving the depth of our
is impossible to accept that you are not "meantlove. We think that the fact that someone could
to be" with that person. I believed that because Ibring us to our knees like this proves that they
felt the way I did, our connection HAD to be real.are our soulmate. Nothing could be further from
It couldn't be possible that I was love addicted. Itthe truth. They might be your soulmate by
couldn't be possible that our love would fail. Itcoincidence, but none of these symptoms prove
couldn't be possible that he would ever reallyit.
leave me. He did. (I just made myself cry.)The truth is that what is meant to be, is. And you
The truth, however, is that I was love addicted.and this person are not in a healthy, successful
All of the "love" that I felt was not real love. Sorelationship. That is what is happening in the
many times I have tried to accept that, and it ispresent, and the present is all you have. You
still hard to this day. I defined "love" by mycannot change what is truly meant to be. You
feelings. The longing I felt. The pain I was in fromhave to put your faith in God. I am not a religious
being heartbroken. The torture I experiencedperson, but my heartbreak was so severe that
when he pulled away, when he didn't call, when heat times my only choice was to go to the church
left. That was my "proof" that my love for himby myslef and cry, begging God for guidance,
was stronger than any other love that any onebecause I had no place else to go and no one else
person had ever felt for another. But that wasto turn to. I prayed for him to come back to me,
not "love," it was addiction.but I also acknowledged to God that I knew HE
Love does not feel like excruciating pain andwould not steer me wrong, and that he would
longing. Love is not conflict and fighting. Love ispoint me in the right direction. He did.
not feeling empty inside. Love feels good. Love isBelieve that what is meant to be, is. Give up
reciprocated. Love is the security that your matetrying to control your destiny and things will start
is committed to you, you alone, and will be thereto turn around.