| There are a lot of articles on the internet relating | | | | from recovering and regaining control of your life. |
| to break-ups. The pain a person feels during a | | | | If this critical step is something you are not willing |
| break up can be excruciating and debilitating. We, | | | | to do, then you must accept the consequences |
| as human beings, are not built to remain in a state | | | | of being in the affair. Those consequences include |
| of pain. So, we go online looking for information to | | | | feeling brokenhearted on a daily basis. |
| help alleviate the pain we feel. However, most | | | | Step 2 |
| advice is generic and deals with break-ups as a | | | | Get a coach or therapist. |
| universal thing that can be handled by "getting | | | | You need a trained person to guide you through |
| back out there" or taking care of yourself. For | | | | this transition. Don't try to do it on your own. |
| married affair survivors, this doesn't work. There | | | | There is a reason you are in this mess, and it is |
| is no "getting back out there" because you are | | | | not because your affair partner is the most |
| already in a committed relationship. The last thing | | | | wonderful person on earth. It is because you |
| you want to do is get involved in another | | | | have problems in your primary relationship, you |
| impossible, heart-wrenching situation. Taking care | | | | have unresolved childhood trauma, or you have |
| of yourself also is a challenge, because you are | | | | some other issue. You need to work with a |
| probably so spent taking care of your family and | | | | trained professional. Broken Heart RX has a |
| harboring the stress of the affair break-up that | | | | network of certified therapists trained in love |
| you feel unable to function. | | | | addiction and break up grief treatment. There is |
| What is a person to do? How can you move on? | | | | no better resource available. Make sure that you |
| There are a few steps that must be taken to | | | | are working with someone certified or you could |
| truly break free and move on. | | | | spend a lot of time and money with the wrong |
| Step 1 | | | | therapist and prolong your agony. |
| End all contact with your affair partner. | | | | Step 3 |
| You have probably read this before and have not | | | | Choose happiness. |
| yet taken a stand for yourself or your marriage. | | | | Sounds simple, doesn't it? Once the fog lifts and |
| Whether your partner is leaving you or whether | | | | you can see that the sun actually will shine |
| you want to leave your partner, it is critical that | | | | tomorrow, this step will become easier. You have |
| you make the break and stick to it. This is a hard | | | | to take control of your life. You cannot choose to |
| and unfortunate reality. There is no way around it. | | | | be a slave to this heart-wrenching, miserable |
| Don't waste time pondering solutions or trying to | | | | situation. There is a reason that you and your |
| come up with schedules. Don't try to be friends. | | | | partner are not married to each other. Once you |
| You have to end communication even if that | | | | have mastered Step 1 and you have support with |
| means canceling email accounts and changing your | | | | Step 2, you will see that choosing to be happy is |
| phone number. Delaying this step will prevent you | | | | possible. |